A new language for relationships

This is
Rōmational.

The logic behind relationships that work. Not a dating app.

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Rōmational® · Est. 2026
01 The Idea
Relationship expectations are the hardest things to communicate. They're mostly private, they change frequently, and you may not want them all public.

We talk endlessly about who we want to be with and almost never about what we actually want from a relationship. The first is performance. The second is the truth.

Rōmational is a language for that truth. A way to map what kind of relationship fits your life right now, and what kind of person fits inside it, without judgment, without performance, without a profile to perform on.

It's designed for any relationship: developing or long established, romantic or otherwise, with someone new or with someone you've known for twenty years.

02 Three Layers

Three layers.
One honest picture
of what you want.

RomType
What kind of relationship do you actually want, right now, in this life?

Twenty questions across twenty dimensions. Not the relationship that sounds good. The one that fits the life you're actually living. Your RomType is the shape, and it can change as you change.

FlexScore
What do you need in a partner, and how much does each piece actually matter?

Forty-three factors, from children to cleanliness, finances to faith, conflict to communication. For each one you say what you prefer, and how flexible you are about it. The result is a complete picture of what you actually need, not what sounds reasonable.

Connect
Ready to share? Only when you choose, only with whom you choose.

Everything stays private until you decide otherwise. When you're ready to compare with someone, you control exactly what they see and when. Four steps. You can stop at any one of them. Nothing is shared without your explicit consent.

03 In practice

Two people.
One honest process.

Step 2 of Marlin and Allie's Compare reveal: both of them are SCOM (Structured Committed), shown privately to each side, with the choice to continue to the next reveal or stop. See the full walkthrough →

Marlin and Allie each did the work on their own. Twenty questions, forty-three factors. Then they chose to compare. The system didn't pair them. It showed them, in stages, what they had each already said about themselves.

First — were they even looking for the same kind of relationship? Yes: both SCOM, Structured Committed. That meant the next conversation was worth having. Each step of the reveal showed only what the previous one had earned — designed to surface a mismatch as early as possible, before either of them had shared more than the situation warranted. They could continue, or stop, at any point.

Yes, continue with Marlin and Allie

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04 Who it's for

Not for swipers.
For anyone who wants the truth
about what they actually want.

People dating with intention, who are tired of guessing what the other person wants.
Couples, new or long-established, who want a shared language for the conversations that matter.
Anyone reassessing where they are after a major life change: a move, a loss, a new chapter.
Therapists, coaches, and counselors who want a structured starting point for their clients.
05 The Privacy Promise

Your name is never required.
Your results are never sold.
Your profile is never shown to anyone without your explicit consent.

Any connection you share can be withdrawn at any moment — by you, or by them.
When either side withdraws, the connection ends for both.
No ghosting, no residue, no leftover trace.

Your own record is yours to keep. You can see every connection you've made,
every one you've archived, every one you've declined — in real time, always retrievable.

Every saved comparison is a record of the moment it happened.
Your profile keeps growing as you do. Your past stays honest to who you were then.
Nothing is ever rewritten without you.

What you build here is yours. A living, private record of who you are and what you want, updated as you change, kept only for you.

We will never take advantage of your honesty.

You have been figuring this out on your own for a long time.

You don't have to anymore.

No spam. No sharing. Open to anyone who wants to try.

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